Wedding bells and the Great Wu, Even Greater

At Sunday night family dinner at the Wu’s, I had a conversation with Wu Xia about dating and what the word ‘commitment ‘means. Her boyfriend, LBX [Li Bo Xing, but I call him LBX] recently purchased an apartment, which is in the process of being built, and will be done in one year. So I asked Wu Xia, will you move in with him when the apt is finished? She said maybe, if they are still dating. I said, you might as well, you have been dating him for two years. She said two years was not a long time, she knew of people who have dated for eight years and still do not live together or are married. I said those people have a fear of commitment, and we discussed what that means. I said, if LBX leaves right now, you could never see him again, you have no commitment with him. She said, right.
Later that night, Xiao Wu and I were sitting at the dinner table while Wu Xia and LBX were watching TV, and Wu and I were discussing debts to parents, and he said he had loaned Wu Xia 100,000 RMB [about 12 grand US] to help LBX buy this apt. I yelled into the other room, ‘Wu Xia! Guo lai! [come here!] I asked her, you don ‘t call 100,000 RMB a commitment?! She turned rather red and started explaining all these bank loan situations, and how its better to pay more money up front, blah blah blah, I told her, I don’t care about why it makes sense to loan him the money, I am wondering why you didn’t tell me that you have in fact made a commitment to this man! She said she didn’t want me to think badly of her and LBX. I told her that I thought it was great that they were buying a house together, and she should be proud of the commitment she has made, because it means she believes in her relationship, and told Wu that it was great that he supported his daughter that way too. Wu Xia said that it wasn’t a true commitment, like a contract or marriage, because Wu told her that if she wants to break up with LBX she should not worry about the money. I said that I agreed, but still 100,000 RMB is a lot of money! Anyway, this is turning out to be a really long story, but in the end I learned that: 1. Wu is a great guy, even greater, and I think it’s so ausome that he believes in and support his daughter like that. And 2. Wu Xia is probably going to marry this guy!!!! He’d a cool guy, so I am excited for her. Whoa, major.
Author’s note: do not fear that folks in China will be accessing my blog and reading all my insights into their lives, you cannot view my blog page in this country!
Sorry to be overblogging, I know it's alot to read but as my work is still rather 'mellow' I don't have a whole more to do than blog!